We’re sitting here in this liminal space between parenting one and parenting siblings. Any day, any hour now really, we could find ourselves on the other side.
I’ve been thinking a lot about what we’ve done to prepare. If having one taught me anything, it’s that there is very little we can do to prepare. Much of this process of bringing new life into the world is waiting and responding and living with immediate wants or needs. But we have done a few things, and I’m really interested to see how important the feel on the other side.
Clothes: two weeks ago my dad and I put together a dresser, which is now full of clean baby clothes, blankets, shoes, burp rags, and various other bits and pieces of things we will probably use for less than the first 3 or 4 months. And yet these things are probably going to be absolutely necessary during that short period of sleeplessness, spit up, and cluster feeding.
Replacing gross carpet: the last patch of nasty, stinky carpet is now out of the house, replaced with grip strip laminate that looks awesome and was SO EASY to install. Our bedroom no longer smells constantly dirty.
Repairing the water pressure: This has been an ongoing problem for years. I tracked down the problem and my dad and I repaired it last Saturday. Best part is that we can actually fill a birth tub if Leah ends up wanting it. Ok. Maybe the fact that it doesn’t take 25 minutes to fill Darwin’s bath. Or that the diaper sprayer, well, actually sprays.
Purchasing an umbrella and a small, inflatable pool for the yard: expanding or usable space.
Postpartum Doula: this is the one that I’m most pleased about. We have a friend who is a postpartum doula, and our awesome, amazing, approve community has come together to hire her for us. I just don’t even have the words to express how good it is to know that she will be available to support Leah (and me to a lesser extent – or maybe just different?) as she navigates the beginning of life as a gestational mama.
Have any of you had postpartum doulas?Was there anything you wish you had known with your subsequent children? Did you find your support networks shifting again, or were they settled out after the first little one?